I feel he chose to end it with the choices he made. He is shocked and sad that I am standing firm on this. I do not feel safe with him anymore and choose to be on my own now. What you wrote is exactly how I feel!! Thank you , Lin. I was very sad to read this post and with the exception of the cheating I can identify with the other abusive behaviour you have sadly experienced.
I would caution anyone who advocates putting self first as now both parties are putting themselves first. But rather I would promote putting first what is morally and legally right.
You are a fucking selfish self loving idiot. Things are often hard and most of the time not of your doing. This is terrible advice. I feel for you, I guess what you had read was not clear to you, my suggestions to you is read it again.
At any point was mentioning of leaving the person, but taking a different look at the situation and what is the reality of it. Thank you for your input. Guesss my wife, Now an X wife……She tossed our marriage vows into the fire pit…. I told her karma has your number……..
The comments in some of these posts, are perfect examples of the anguish a corrupted soul experiences, after their corruption becomes known and exposed, by those they oppress.
Smarter, wiser, and all that jazz… but the only reason I got to the other side, was God leading me to wisdom. Your lovely article, is wise, and spot on. Thank you for this, as it rings the bell of truth. No telling how many oppressed souls hear a similar ring.
However, I did hear them, and held onto those faint rings. I encourage you to keep writing articles like this one. In abusive situations, both the abuser and then gradually the abused, lose sight of what the truth is, as both are living a lie. I was blindsided after 32 years of marriage, lied to, played, gas lighted and so on. He made all the decisions, where we lived, jobs. We never really had a vacation, it got to be where he never wanted to do anything.
His job seemed to be his biggest concern. Said and did mean things, not acting like ever before? He went to a federal academy last year and said after training we would sell the house and move to TX, well he came home but left without me stating more training but packed our cargo trailer and bought an RV on his way to TX, I know but he was telling me lines all along.
Plus that lovely voicemail? This is absolutely something I never dreamed would come from him. I feel used, life wasted and now he wants to have me stalked and do ugly things on top of it all?
I think what he really wanted was for me to kill myself and when I did not he thought well then I will do everything I can to torture her. Ok so what about if vows were broken on both parts. In stark contrast to God's faithfulness and care, Israel and Judah shamelessly disregarded the covenant: neglecting, abusing and betraying him.
The prophets repeatedly called their behavior out as the violation of the covenant it was: adultery Ezek. God's marital covenant with the northern kingdom of Israel had been wrecked by her hardhearted behavior, and in Jeremiah we hear these words: "for all the adulteries of that faithless one, Israel, I had sent her away with a decree of divorce.
God warns adulterous and apostate Judah to learn a lesson from Israel's example. Both sister states had been unfaithful and broken their covenants with God, but while God had divorced Israel, he offered Judah a second and third, and fourth chance at mercy. His offer of restoration was beautifully enacted by Hosea in his marriage to unfaithful Gomer, and ultimately realized in the unbreakable marriage covenant between Christ and the church.
I had often noted God's patient forgiveness and covenant renewal in Hosea, but God's description of his own divorce with the northern kingdom of Israel shocked me. I had unquestioningly internalized the phrase "the sin of divorce.
Let me be clear: Marriage covenants are meant to be permanent, and sin is always to blame when a marriage ends in divorce.
We commit sin when we break our vows, and marriage requires the regular practice of confession and forgiveness for the failures and oversights between spouses. There is a difference, though, between minor, unintentional mistakes and willful violations of covenant vows.
In the former, we are to forgive and "bear with one another in love. The sin in divorce lies in the breaking of marriage vows, not necessarily in the divorce itself. God's own divorce was entirely due to Israel's hardhearted sin. God was the blameless victim of divorce. When God says "I hate divorce" Mal. Divorce is not God's will or desire for us. Even where divorce is allowed, it is not commanded , and then it is still a tragedy.
Divorce leaves behind devastation and victims in its wake. That God himself is a divorcee, despite his faultless covenant faithfulness, calls us to a more nuanced understanding of marriage and divorce. In our own marriages, God calls us to follow his example of covenant faithfulness, and has demonstrated how much grace and forgiveness is needed to maintain a relationship in the face of human sinfulness. God's example give us a framework to talk meaningfully about commitment and grace, and yet also to say that in situations of hard-hearted and deliberate covenant violation, divorce was allowed as God's way of officially declaring a broken covenant "broken.
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